To get a good kick, apart of having a workable sound in the first place, is to use compression and also a good transient designer might help a lot.olevish wrote: ↑Sat Jul 27, 2019 6:28 pm Kick (yeah I don't know what to do with it, it's either too low or too loud), that's like the main problem that hurts the ears, it's too "obvious" for lack of a better word, like you said "The two should feel absolutely natural together" - that's like my main goal, but I have no clue how to do this, at first I though maybe to add a little bit of reverb to it, to smooth it over kinda, but reverb made it feel even worse...
You probably already have a compressor, just look for a kick-preset to get you started. As for the transient designer, Transpire by Sonic Anomaly is really good (it's my favorite) and completely free. Just drop it on your kick track and play with the controls, you'll hear what it does (and can do) as it's effect is pretty obvious.
A transient designer also works wonders on other percussive sounds and on bass.